If I were to go with the memes I saw during the last leg of 2016, I’d say it was a pretty shitty year for the most of us. Again, the basis of this theory is what people have put out there in the mighty universe a.k.a social media. In my honest opinion the year had given me countless moments to be thankful for but also enough reasons to ‘like’ an anti-2016 meme floating out there (no kidding!).
For people like you and me who consider themselves WIP, I’d say a new year is another opportunity of brushing off all our bruises and giving it another go! Just work to your best potential to get to where you aspire to be.
Most people enter the year with a wild bash and a hungovered morning with a promise of quitting alcohol that year or that month (lol, good luck!). But I on the other hand try to ponder as to what the year brought me and what I shared with the world. Now, I know some of you might think of me as ‘how very saint-ly of you!’ but being the volatile Cancerian that I am, I do like to ‘reflect’. However, this NYE I did not feel like we’re about to dive into a new year. Maybe it was because I was travelling for a week and I was little disconnected from the world outside my wanderlust bubble, but it just didn’t give me a moment to STOP and think.
Believe it or not, the day I landed back to the city, I was diagnosed with chickenpox! Universe gave me a full week (and still counting) of thinking (and itchiness). This little time was more of an un-wanted vacation where it was just me, myself and my isolation. A hundred naps and countless pills later, I took some time out to blog the things I’ve learnt after assessing my 2016! Are you ready for the pearls of wisdom? Read on.
Don’t Look back don’t hold back
It’s not always bad to look back. Sometimes the uncertainty of tomorrow can be comforted by a sweet memory from the past. Be it an ex- boyfriend/ girlfriend or an old friend who’s drifted apart with time, always regard your past with positiveness as it does have an impact on your present whether you like it or not.
2. It’s not always your fault
‘Guilt’ is a major factor that plays a strong role in our everyday lives. You’ll be surprised how the small things of not doing something (or doing something wrong) can turn painful for your conscience. Don’t be so hard on yourself sometime it’s just not your fault. But if it is, then stop being a dick and find a way to fix it!
3. A Relationship is a two-way street
Be it lovers, colleagues, friends, or relatives a relationship is always reciprocal. Now I’m not saying start counting everything you’ve done for that person but hey, know when you’re being taken for a ride and quit! It’s easier said than done but you’ll be surprised at how much it de-clutters your life by leaving the ‘anchors’ behind you.
4. Show gratitude for the little joys of life
If you open your eye for a little detail you will realize there are certain things that put a smile on your face everyday. Appreciate them and show some gratitude. From the morning hug of your dog to your mom making your favourite food, from the office boy getting you coffee (the way you like it) to the boss who let’s you leave early (if that ever happens) … we all get ‘the small joys of life’ on a daily basis but we often overlook them and move on to facing the big bad world!
5. You can be a perfectionist but your life can’t
You can picture me as a black woman with Mindy Lahiri‘s swag telling you that “girl, you can fix your face airbrushing all you want but you sure as hell can’t airbrush your life to perfection.” Perfect is nothing! Your perfect might be Beyonce’s average and your bad can be your Instagram follower’s amazing. Comprende? Just be glad with what you have. (And this is coming from a person who’s suffering from chickenpox ATM!).
6. Holding on to something will not make it work
Something I am guilty of. I’m not the kinds who will quit the first time around (or apparently a millionth) but like most of you guys, I like to stick to my comfort zone even when it stops feeling comfortable. This is something I have to overcome this year, but I am pretty sure I am not the only one. Be it your job, a long time relationship or anyone who you thought will make you happy but now has turned it all up-side down. You need to take the exit. #GesturesLikeAnAirHostess
7. It takes time to heal but you will heal
When things don’t go the way we want them to go often we are heartbroken. It’s okay to hurt. It’s okay to cry. Let it out of your system everyday till the day you don’t have to do that. You can get past anything if you just believe that one day you will heal and you will get better. Don’t wait for anyone to fix you. You ain’t a Coldplay song!
8. The only person you need to unconditionally love is yourself
Please take this pointer in a less selfish way but we all love the (hand-picked) people in our lives and things that we are attached to, but we often forget to love ourselves. Insecurities and competitiveness consume us and we struggle to be ‘good enough.’ Now this is not the Hailee Steinfeld in me speaking but gotta love myself, no I don’t need anybody else!
9. Do something ordinary for the world and make an extraordinary impact
Now even if you had the heart to do something selfless, where would you begin? Lucky for you this step is the easiest of them all. I can actually guide you on this one if you really want to do some good to the world. All you have to do is pick something you are passionate or empathetic about. Nature conservation, poverty, children’s education and welfare, animal welfare, women’s protection, recycling… the list goes on and on. It hurts everywhere and there’s always something you can do to help. Once you have homed down to your cause, research and see what people are already doing for that cause. You can either join them and be a helping hand or you start a campaign/ project of your own to help the cause. Trust me, the love you feel doing something for a community that really needs your help can over-power the love you feel seeing the new collection of Louboutins.
10. This is it!
Lastly and most importantly, no matter what you’ve done in the past or what you’re planning for the future – THIS IS IT! Live every moment like it’s the last one. Life is happening now! Not yesterday, not tomorrow it’s happening right fucking NOW!
So you’ve sat around your buried ambitions for far too long. Life is happening NOW. Go forth and slay!